Where There’s a Will There’s a Way
One day while browsing through a BACP practitioners Facebook group, I read about a document called Professional Will.
Simply put, a Professional Will is a document that a therapist makes in anticipation of sudden closure of his/her practice. It carries details about the practice and instructions for the executor on how to close the practice and referrals to the clients for continued treatment, in case the therapist becomes mentally/physically incapacitated or passes away suddenly.
I am a counsellor and psychotherapist by profession and work regularly with clients experiencing clinical depression, anxiety, relationship issues, self-esteem, low confidence and other mental health conditions. I felt that a therapeutic will might be an important document to have. There are a few clients who are emotionally dependent on me as their therapist and sudden unavailability from my end can lead to unfavourable consequences like self-harm. Erskine, 1993, writes that “contact within psychotherapy is like the substructure of a building: it cannot be seen but it undergirds and supports all that is above ground. Contact provides the safety that allows the client to drop defences, to feel again and to remember.” He also writes “once the interruption to contact has been dissolved, the relationship offered by the therapist provides the client with a sense of validation, care, support and understanding. This involvement is an essential factor in dissolving the defences that constitute dissociation and in resolving and integrating previous traumas and unrequited relationships”.
My personal journey to write the will
I have a simple financial will already in place, so I understand the importance of having a will. What I saw in a professional will is that it is an act of being accountable, responsible, compassionate towards clients and acknowledging one’s mortality. What I didn’t account for was that my journey would be so emotionally charged and lonely. In this journey, I experienced myself as a fantasy-fear ridden Child, sometimes making Adult decisions, and at times feeling proud of my ethical stand.
I started out by reading more about it in various articles and code of ethics of different governing bodies. I found that the American Psychological Association (APA) has many resources to guide practitioners and has instituted writing the professional will in their Ethics Code. I was intrigued to read more.
Further reading of articles elicited that patients and clients can be deeply affected by the sudden incapacitation, demise or suicide of their doctors and therapists. Some studies done on psychologists’ suicide indicated that clients can enter a cycle of loss and grief and not identify a new therapist, believe that they could have saved their therapist, they could have been the cause of suicide or lose faith in the process itself (Ballenger, 1978). I was convinced that I should have a professional will in place as I saw potential psychological harm for my clients without one in place.
I started writing my will by putting all the basic details of my practice. I spoke with my family and they were on-board with my idea. I was happy to know that they understood my sentiments and ethical stand.
Talking about my own demise or incapacitation with my family was not an easy task. I would often break down while talking about it with them and my mentors. The act of writing the will left me conflicted. I felt, sometimes driven and sometimes anxious. I was happy that I was preparing an ethically needed document. But the thought of closing down my practice, dying one day and not living anymore bothered me. At times, I would think about when and how I might die. I went into Child fantasies and irrational fears. In the latter half of 2020, a conversation with my therapist and a realisation that so many organisations like APA, BACP and UKCP member therapists are writing their wills and surviving it, brought me back to operating from Adult ego state. I was glad that I was leaving instructions to close my business in an ethical way and offering qualified referrals for continued care and support for my clients.
While writing my will, I realised that my practice is not a small one that can be ignored if I pass away. I have cyclical bills to pay and memberships that need to be cancelled. My family had no idea of how I keep my notes, recordings, and what are the passwords of my digital accounts. It also dawned on me that they would be coping with their own grief and they might not be able to talk with my clients or handle their grief.
Soon, I started broaching the topic with my clients while keeping in mind to not cause any psychological harm to my clients. I got a lot of mixed reactions from them, which was baffling and yet interesting enough for me. Some wanted to be added to the list of clients to be informed and know if all was well with me. Some were curious about it, some enquired about my health status, and some felt anxious, refused to be notified. Internally, I was aware of my countertransference of feeling protective, cared for, to not be of matter to my clients. I also recognised my clients Rescuer attitudes and fear of abandonment and processed the transference with them. Yet, I was unsure about how the conversations should happen and took my Child and Parent reactions to my supervisor.
In Nov 2020, I attended a workshop on “How to choose an executor”, where I realised the crucial role of the executor in executing the will. The next task was to locate 2 executors for my will who could inform my clients and also to wrap up my business. There was a challenge though that people known to me or in my group had no prior experience on how to handle this, but I felt confident within and I knew what I was talking about. I explained the role of an executor to two colleagues and in turn realised that I was finally accepting my fears of talking about my mortality with others. I relaxed and felt proud of myself. My heart was overjoyed to know that people agreed to be executors after some contemplation. I feel immensely validated and accompanied by them in my journey.
I recommend the readers to read the articles in the reference section and make their professional will as an ethical act of accountability, compassion and protection for their family, clients and the profession.
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Do catch the SAJTA article written by Samiksha Jain - “Where There is a Will, There is a Way Professional Will: A Tool for Ethical Practice”
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